Kasey at the bat,
Good thing you called The Hotline. We have had our hearts broken so many times, the scotch tape is beginning to give-way. There is no easy way to quickly recover from an emotional blow to the ventricles. After the waste basket is brimming with snotty tissues and the ice cream and frozen lard has all been consumed, what else can a girl do? A new pair of kitten heels might do the trick, but we have some other suggestions we think might work.
Take a goose - I mean a gander, at these tips:
1. Believe that you can!: Getting over him begins by believing that you can first. Dig deep and find inner strength. Claim it. Today is a brand new day. Avoid certain statements: “I’ll never get over him” expressions reinforce what you don’t want to happen. So do the opposite. Say the right lines and things are bound to change faster.
2. Cut all communication: It's so so hard. Don’t return calls, emails, anything! Don’t give yourself room so you can go crying back into his arms. Cut all entry points. Delete his number off your phone. Don’t spy on him with facebook or email if you know his passwords. Let him be. Resist the temptation to take desperate action.
3. Find a new activity: Find a new outlet to focus on. Go biking or take dancing lessons. Better yet taking boxing classes and really let that steam off.
4. Look nice for YOU: Go get your hair done. Have your nails done, too. Pick out a new dress. Look nice to please you and no one else.
5. Don’t use alcohol or hurt yourself as escape route: You don’t deserve this self beating and physical abuse. These toxins are not solutions. In fact they make you feel even worse.
6. Start dating again: Turn a new leaf. Don’t hide under your shell. Meet new people. Don’t live your present with the past. Go out with friends: Live your single life again with your friends. Discover how to do things as a single girl again. Live life with no commitments. Free yourself.
7. Expel your emotions: Cry, cry and cry. Talk, talk and talk. It’s all right to get emotional. Give yourself a week than move on.
8. Don’t pretend you’re still together: Immediately let other people know that you are not going out together anymore. Say it right away so they stop associating you with him anymore.
9. Make a hate list: Write down all the lousy things you experienced in your last relationship. Then place this list on places where it will remind you what you gone thru. Stop thinking of the good times: Block your mind of these memories. Instead just say, “Erase. Erase. Erase.” Say these words every time you are reminded of him.
10. Remove all reminders: Get a box and place all the garbage that reminds you of him. Then set a disposal date and stick to it. Getting rid of them will help you get rid of him.
11. Act like you don’t care: Action cures fear. Do it and your fears will disappear. Start acting it then later you’ll start to believe it. Shrug him off. 12. Realize you’re not the only one: Get a prospective. You’re not the only girl whose heart has been broken. You are not making history. It’s just a normal part of life.
13. Believe you’ll love again: There’s always hope. It’s not the end of the world. Some where out there is someone who is tailor fit for you.
14. Stay away from his friends: Stay away from them. You’ll look like a loser. Find new friends to associate with. 15. Disrupt your normal activities: Change your patterns. Get an unplanned vacation. Do something radical that will keep your mind busy and distracted.
16. Buy a puppy: Give him your love instead. Better to give it to something that will remain loyal to you and true.
Ugh. Lost love is a broken heart. Good Luck, Kasey.
Another decision saved,
The Hotline Experts
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